Usually when people first get together they can’t keep their hands off each other. And after the wedding, that first year is memorable, to say the least. When I got married a friend told me to put a penny in a jar for every time we made love for the first 3 years. Then after that take one penny out of the jar for every time we made love from then on out. And by the end of our lives together there would still be pennies left in the jar.
The need for touch
When Tina and I first got married, all I wanted to do was be near her and touch her. I wanted to touch her life, her soul, her dreams, and most of all her physical anatomy. I knew that the way I felt I wanted her to feel it too.
Needless to say, there was a period in our marriage where we barely touched during the course of months. Not because we didn’t want to, but because the hustle and bustle of kids, work, obligations, etc. didn’t allow us to. Touching became less and less important. Getting things done became our goals, and personal touch, of any kind fell to the waist side.
It wasn’t until one day that we casually touched and I realized that my body had been missing that. That feeling, that desire, that need, that love, that knowing, that unspoken… that!
Touch is something that is taken for granted and yet needed, but not often given. Touch can easily die over time for whatever reason. Lack of touch can affect your relationship in a negative way. Human touch is important in itself. But it is even more important in maintain a healthy relationship. Without touch there can be a huge disconnect in your marriage.
Engaging in deep meaningful conversation you can actually touch someone without physically touching. You can touch each other through words, kind actions, and thoughtfulness. Physical touch can be a kiss on the cheek, holding her hand, hugging her when she least expects it. If you’re unsure what’s missing and how you can touch each other, do them all, mental, physical, and emotional touch at any time for any reason.
Understand the importance of physical touch if your partner needs to have physical touch. Love can be expressed in many different ways, make sure you’re speaking love to your spouse through touch the way they need it.
For all of my men out there, please let me know what you do to keep touch an important part of your relationship.
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